Training Children Monday, November 2, 2009
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“If your child requests something that you know you will give him if he persists in asking for it, then give it at the very first request. Do not let your child force you into giving it through crying or making a fuss.
If the request is one you do not intend ever to fulfil, due to its detrimental nature, then do not give in, even if the child creates a fuss. In this way you will nurture your children to understand that making a fuss is not going to force you to give in. If you do not take care in this matter, you will spoil the character of your children.”
Pay Attention Wednesday, April 29, 2009
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by Abu Abdullah ibn Ismail
“We tend not to pay attention to our children, e.g. when we have conversations amongst adults we just send them into the next room.
If we were to keep them with us during appropriate discussions they would learn how to behave with other people and how to conduct themselves.
If they just stay with other children all the time, their level of understanding and behaviour will not develop.”
Our Children Saturday, February 7, 2009
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by Zakariyya Goga
Give your children time, love, respect and honour.
We are quick to criticise our children when they are in the wrong, but fail to praise them when they do good. It is important to praise them when praise is due.
Create such a good home environment that your children do not feel the need to leave the home in search of happiness.
Parental Duties Friday, February 6, 2009
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by Abu Abdullah ibn Ismail
“If a child were to fall ill, his parents would take him to the doctor and buy him the appropriate medicine if necessary. If the need were to arise, they would also take him to hospital. They would ensure that he takes his medicine properly and follows the advice of the doctor.
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Irresponsible Parenting Monday, February 2, 2009
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by Abu Abdullah ibn Ismail
“What unfortunately tends to happen in our homes is that if a child behaves in a way that is disrespectful to the mother, instead of warning the child and correcting the mistake the father makes it an issue of fun and laughter. Likewise with the mother.
Little do such parents realise that this irresponsible behaviour is strengthening the roots of disrespect in the heart of their child, and that these roots will become stronger and stronger and take on a more harmful form. Once that happens it will be very difficult to cure the problem.”
Nurturing the Family Monday, August 25, 2008
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by Ummi Taalib
“Both effort and du’aa are necessary in order to nurture one’s family. Success lies in spending quality time at home and guiding the family towards the straight path with love, wisdom, and when necessary, appropriate discipline.
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A Knowledgeable Child Friday, August 1, 2008
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by Abu Abdullah Ibne Ismail
“Imagine a father with a diagnosis of cancer who has two devoted sons. The first son is a cancer expert and fully understands the severity of his father’s illness and the complications that lie ahead. The second son has little knowledge of his father’s condition.
It is obvious that the first son will have greater concern for his father for he knows full well the implications of cancer and the damage that it can cause.
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Do we Ever? Monday, July 28, 2008
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by Abu Abdullah Ibn Ismail
“When our children disobey Allah ta’ala do we feel any sorrow or regret? When our children neglect Salaah, which is the most important act of worship in our deen, do we ever experience any concern?
When our children underperform in school we cannot sleep. Yet do we ever experience even the slightest discomfort when we see our children openly breaking the commands of Allah?”
Love & Respect Monday, July 28, 2008
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by Abu Abdullah Ibn Ismail
“Children need love and respect. If we as parents do not give our children the love and respect that they need then our children will look towards other avenues.
And this is (one of the main reasons why our) children become caught up in gangs and in the wrong company.
We should not only rely on reprimands to dis-encourage undesirable behaviour in our children. Rewards should also be used to encourage behaviour which is desirable.”
Real Friends Sunday, July 27, 2008
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by Abu Abdullah Ibn Ismail
“A real friend is not he who only gives gifts, lends money or helps one out in worldly matters. A real friend is he who worries about the hereafter of his friend.
This is why a real friend will stop one from any action that may cause deeni harm regardless of what potential benefit that action might have brought in this world.
Based upon this we should now ponder upon two things.
The first is how many friends do we really have? And the second is, are we really the friends of our children?”
